“A treat for myself… you don’t have to earn it.”🎶 That lyric stopped me in my tracks.
Because when it comes to kids and food, I’m a tiny bit rebellious too.
I’m rebelling against the idea that dessert has to be earned.
When dessert is always the reward at the end of the meal, it becomes the most powerful food on the plate. Kids focus on getting to it, negotiating for it, or refusing dinner so they can hold out for sweets later.
Instead, sometimes I normalize dessert right alongside the meal.🍪
Not every day.
🥦Just like I don’t serve broccoli every day. But occasionally placing a small sweet on the plate helps take dessert off the pedestal and teaches kids that all foods can fit.
A few examples from this video:
• 2 mini shortbread cookies (about 1 gram sugar total)
• 2 low-sugar animal cookies (less than 1 gram sugar each) @lovechildorganics are a fave!
• 1 miniature peanut butter cup (about 5 grams sugar)
✔️Small portions.
✔️No drama.
❤️Just food.
When sweets lose their “special status,” many kids become less obsessed with them and more willing to eat the rest of the meal too.
That’s not rebellion.
That’s feeding kids with balance.
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🥰Melanie
Melanie Potock / picky eater help, normalize dessert, feeding therapy tips, responsive feeding, toddler mealtime strategies, healthy relationship with food, pediatric feeding therapist, raising adventurous eaters